Thursday, July 12, 2007

all-consuming relationship
When in love, how do you preserve your identity and course in life? Here is the number one reason for losing yourself in a relationship: Your belief that love is something you either deserve or not! Your misguided belief leads you to counterproductive efforts to do almost anything to get love and even more to hold onto it:
You modify your identity to gain approval and love from your partner.
You hold back intimacy to protect your vulnerability.
You have a need to manipulate your partner.
If you long for a partner who is wholeheartedly behind you, ask yourself, are you the same partner? Do you give that which you seek in your relationship? Ironically, many lack the qualities they seek in their partners.
Beware of 'mustabation', the belief that you must have a new relationship, a better job and a bigger house before you can be happy. Extremes of thought only set you up for failure. Remember, what you want is what you've not yet got but what you need is all around you! Don't chuck the baby out with the bathwater, work to improve things.

Tuesday, July 03, 2007

never let the chance of letting someone you love, know, how much they mean to you......
or never let some special moments just pass by when you can actually make good use of them

difficult question!!

If there are two people in front of you...
one your LOVE...
and the other your TRUE companion...
who would you want to spend the rest of your life with?